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How has your new year gotten off to start? I've f How has your new year gotten off to start? I've felt more tired lately when I "should" be more productive. BUT I'm giving myself permission to rest and sleep when I need to. What phase are you in, and what are you needing to care for yourself? . . . #selfcare #QUEER #gay
#Repost @heyamberrae ・・・ This is one of my t #Repost @heyamberrae ・・・ This is one of my top 5 posts of 2019, and it felt relevant to share as we step into 2020. How do we shift habits that are difficult to change? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Here’s my process in five steps: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. Clarify the habit I want to change — what’s no longer serving me? What have I outgrown? 2. What it gives me — what benefit do I get from this habit? How does it make me FEEL? 3. What I can replace it with — what do I value more? What will have me feel how I want to feel? 4. So, I will — what small step can I realistically commit to?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 5. Who can I be accountable to? — who can support me in staying true to my goal? (Not included in the art above, though so helpful and important!) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The most important realization I had in the process of shifting hard-to-break habits is realizing that everything I do is to feel a certain way. Once I could unpack WHY I was doing it and the BENEFIT it gave me, I could replace it with something I enjoyed and valued more. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Let’s take negative self-talk, for example. This is a habit I didn’t want and was convinced was adding nothing to my life. Guess what it was giving me? CONTROL. With that realization, I replaced it with what I enjoy more: humor, lightness, and play. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That’s why I started nicknaming and having fun with my critical inner characters. There’s Doc, the Impostor (a neuroscientist at Harvard 😂), Grace the Perfectionist (nothing is ever good enough), and Anxious Annie (always freaked out). Now when my critics act out, I can laugh and think, “Oh, that’s Annie getting worked up because she’s trying to protect me. This is where I grow. Onward!” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Or Evening wine. I love me some wine, but noticed there were times when I turned to it to relax and numb, which often left me feeling foggy the next day. Understanding that I drank wine to relax and feel pleasure inspired me to replace it with something I enjoy just as much: evening strolls. (Real talk: I tried restorative yoga and it wasn’t sticking. I tried a few different habits until walks worked.) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What #habits do you want to shift in 2020?
Another quote from the interview on @queermoneypod Another quote from the interview on @queermoneypodcast ・・・ Do you think that success can be a symptom of trauma? This is a concept that I was curious about, especially with how many gay men try to “prove their worth” in an “I’ll show you” kind of way after experiencing rejection, bullying and societal condemnation. Nick’s (of @holisticqueerhealing) point is an interesting one. “There are ways that people can react to their trauma that, according to the larger culture, looks healthy and productive. But it might just be another way that they’re avoiding dealing with the actual trauma.” Click the link in our profile to listen on @applepodcasts or @Spotify. . . . #podcast #LGBTPocast #Queer #debtfree #livedebtfree #debtfreeguys #LGBTQ #livefabulouslynotfabulouslybroke #queermoney #fire #personalfinance #debtfreecommunity #motivation #quotes #debt #personalfinance #money #moneyconscious #budget #debtfree2020 #financialindependence #gay #lgbt
More from my interview on the @queermoneypodcast ・・・ Have you ever used social media as an avoidance mechanism? 📱 Sometimes the symptoms of trauma may appear to be minor, but they can be hiding a much bigger issue, as Nick Venegoni from @HolisticQueerHealing points out in this quote. “It’s really easy for people to … fall into a scroll hole, and it’s a way to just dissociate.” 😥 Listen to Nick’s advice about dealing with trauma on this week’s Queer Money. Click the link in our profile to listen on @applepodcasts or @Spotify. 🎧 . . . #podcast #LGBTPocast #Queer #debtfree #livedebtfree #debtfreeguys #LGBTQ #livefabulouslynotfabulouslybroke #queermoney #fire #personalfinance #debtfreecommunity #motivation #quotes #debt #personalfinance #money #moneyconscious #budget #debtfree2020 # Financial Independence #gay
#Repost @queermoneypodcast ・・・ This quote fr #Repost @queermoneypodcast ・・・ This quote from Nick Venegoni of @holisticqueerhealing shows how difficult it can be to work through or deal with past trauma. “You’d be surprised to know how many people are totally okay with having sex, but they don’t want nonsexual, physical closeness because that can be a little bit too emotionally or psychologically intimate—which feels scary.” In this week’s Queer Money Podcast Nick shares some of the signs of trauma, what types of trauma exist and how we can overcome some of this ourselves. Click the link in our profile to listen on @applepodcasts or @Spotify. . . . #podcast #LGBTPocast #Queer #debtfree #livedebtfree #debtfreeguys #LGBTQ #livefabulouslynotfabulouslybroke #queermoney #fire #personalfinance #debtfreecommunity #motivation #quotes #debt #personalfinance #money #moneyconscious #budget #debtfree2020 #FinancialIndependence
Listen to my interview on the @queermoneypodcast Listen to my interview on the @queermoneypodcast ・・・ As a queer person has trauma affected your money picture? This week on the Queer Money podcast we discuss trauma and it impact on various aspects of our lives with Nick Venegoni of @holisticqueerhealing. He shares with us some of the signs of trauma and how we can overcome some of this ourselves. Click the link in our profile to listen on @applepodcasts or @Spotify. . . . #podcast #LGBTPocast #Queer #debtfree #livedebtfree #debtfreeguys #LGBTQ #livefabulouslynotfabulouslybroke #queermoney #fire #personalfinance #debtfreecommunity #motivation #quotes #debt #personalfinance #money #moneyconscious #budget #debtfree2020 # Financial Independence #gay #lgbt
Make the Yuletide #Gay! Happy #Christmas . . . #s Make the Yuletide #Gay! Happy #Christmas . . . #solstice #QUEER #lgbt
Going home for the holidays can be difficult for m Going home for the holidays can be difficult for many #QUEER folks. Be prepared with your #selfcare a d download the free guide "Needs, Boundaries & Selfcare" Just go to Queerhealingjourneys.com/NEEDS to get yours now! LINK IN BIO... . . #lgbt #gay #queerspirituality #christmas #solstice #wintersolstice #chanukah #kwanzaa
#Repost @the_happy_broadcast ・・・ Young LGBT+ #Repost @the_happy_broadcast ・・・ Young LGBT+ people are at least three times more likely to attempt suicide than their straight peers, according to 35 studies from 10 countries collated by researchers in 2018. The advent of gay marriage has cut suicide rates among lesbians and gay men in Sweden and Denmark, both early adopters of gay marriage.
Over two compared periods, from 2003 to 2016 and 1989 to 2002, researchers found that suicides fell 46% for people in same-sex unions. Legislation that promotes LGBT+ rights may reduce the risk of suicide - even for those who are not yet old enough to wed. Love is love and everyone should be free to love and desire whoever they want, no matter which sex or gender anyone has or chooses. Source: Reuters (link in bio) #thehappybroadcast #love #positivity #happiness #happy #motivation #friends #fun #style #illustration #inspiration #goodnews #future #art #artist #lgbtq+ #lgbtq #samesex #gayrights #suicide #suicideprevention #sweden #denmark #loveislove
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